Can you explain what a phobia feels like?

I have a phobia of dropping babies, not me but when I see other people doing stuff that might cause the baby to fall i get this felling like sweaty palms, rapid heart beat, dizziness, anxiety, i feel like they are pulling this nerve out of my back i could go on and on describing this feeling but i wont but it's just a horrible, horrible feeling! recently (someone) found out about this phobia of mine and they think it's so funny so they do things to cause me to get this feeling like they enjoy seeing me act this way, how do I explain what that does to me and that it's NOT a game!!! I'm pregnant with my 1st child and I'm just scared to death that they might try to get me even more with my child, or how do i explain to them that this is real and bad for me even more now that i'm pregnant and they scare me! and does anyone know what this phobia is called?